The title of this post may seem daunting. I know, suicide is a serious issue. But it’s one that needs to be discussed. My blog may focus on beauty, but I do want to be able to speak to my readers about topics that affect so many of us.
13 Reasons Why has been taking the world by storm the last few weeks. For those of you who don’t know, 13 Reasons Why is a Netflix series about a teenage girl, Hannah Baker, who commits suicide and sends 13 tapes to those who pushed her towards suicide.
I know, it sounds dark and it is. The series is based off the novel, written by Jay Asher. Being a bookworm, I actually read the book a few years ago and when I heard about then the series, I was very apprehensive. From what I’ve heard, the series doesn’t make for easy watching, but the book also doesn’t make for easy reading.
It is very upsetting. My boyfriend and I actually only started watching the series a few days ago and I’m still unsure of whether I’ll continue.
But I think with a series like this, young, impressionable teens need to know that suicide is not the answer. So, before you decide that ending your life is the right decision, here are 13 Reasons Why you should live.
1. It Gets Better
I know, I know. You’re probably thinking what does she know? Well, take it from someone who has suffered from depression and anxiety. Who self harmed, wrote multiple suicide notes and was basically unhappy with her life, herself, everything, for many years.
It gets better. You may be thinking that you’re life is at its absolute worst but please believe me when I say that life gets better. For many years I thought I would be unhappy forever.
And I didn’t notice when it happened, I didn’t see it coming, but one day it just didn’t feel as bad as the day before. And the next day felt better then the last and so on.
Life gets better. Surround yourself with positive people, have someone to talk to. Write down why you are unhappy and then write down why you are. Focus on the positives because one day you’ll wake up and find that the positives in your life outweighs the negatives.
2. You Have So Much To Experience
Life is a journey. And sometimes journeys are tough. But everyday is a new day and there is a huge world out there full of things waiting for you to see.
And it isn’t just about travelling; there’s books to read, movies to see, job interviews to attend. Blind dates, new friends, marriage. There is so much that you wouldn’t get to experience if you take your life.
Dont you want to stick around for that?
3. School Doesn’t Last Forever
I know many of you are unhappy in school. Maybe you get bad grades and your parents give you a hard time, maybe you’re being bullied, maybe a teacher doesn’t like you and makes your life hell.
I know it’s hard. But it won’t last forever. One day, you will walk out those doors and never have to go back. School is a small obstacle that you have to overcome in your life.
But it does end. And when it does, you can feel proud, clap yourself on the back, love yourself for sticking it out and not leaving anyone get in your way.
School is hard, but is it really worth cutting your life short?
4. Someone Is Out There Waiting For You
If you’re a teen, you may not have met the love of your life. You might of, but if you haven’t, you will. Someone is out there waiting to meet someone like you.
You will never get to do that if you end your life. And trust me, that feeling you get in your stomach when the person you love looks at you, it’s worth waiting for. I promise.
5. You Are Loved
When I was at my lowest, I thought I had no one. That it was me against the world, and the world was winning. But it wasn’t like that. Because people loved me, I just couldnt see it.
My family, friends, they cared for me.
I mistaked my friends questions of are you ok? For being nosey and wanting information so they could laugh at me. I thought my family was overbearing. In my head everyone wanted me to fail, but it was actually me that wanted me to fail.
And everyone else was just trying to love me. Whether you believe it or not, people love you and it’s something that’s worth holding on to.
6. Don’t let it win
Whatever the reason is that you feel like you’re not worth living, don’t leave it win. You are worth it. You deserve to be here. Stay.
7. You’re here for a reason
I believe that everything in life happens for a reason, cliche maybe but that’s what I believe.
I also believe that we were all put here for or a reason. If you end your life you will never know what you could’ve achieved, never know what that reason is. Stay, stay and find out why you are here.
8. You will never hold your baby in your arms
I don’t have children yet, but I’ve heard that holding your baby for the first time in your arms is one of the most magical feelings in the world.
You will never experience that if you take your life. Your future children will never even exist.
Dont you wanna see if they’ll look like you?
9. You’re leaving so much behind
If there was one thing that was absolutely heart wrenching from what I’ve seen so far of the series, is Hannahs mothers grief.
That is what your family, friends, everyone who loves will feel. You may feel like you’re solving the pain you’re experiencing right now.
But suicide doesn’t take away the pain, it passes it to someone else.
Your family loves you and the need you. Do you have younger siblings? You will never get to see them grow up. And they will never get to see you become who you’re supposed to be.
10. You’re going to grow
You may be unhappy with yourself right now. But please remember, we change everyday. You are not going to be the same person forever.
One day you will wake up and start transforming into who you are meant to be. And that’s beautiful.
I’m still changing everyday, I’m not who I’m meant to be just yet. But I’ve come a long way from what I was. Because I stuck around to see it and you should too.
11. You get to share your story
In a few weeks, months, even years when things are better you get to share your story. You could save someone life. You get to help people who are going through similar situations to what you went through.
Think about how alone you feel right now. One day you may meet someone who feels the way you feel right now. And you could change their life.
12. Friends may reboot
Friends could make a new season, JK Rowling might write another Harry Potter book, Mickey might come back to Shameless.
It might not be a TV series or a novel for you, maybe it is. But think of something you really want to happen.
Whether it’s someone you like asking you out or going on a holiday. It will never happen or you will never know if it happens if you take your life.
Sometimes it’s the small things in life. Stick around and find out.
13. You are BEAUTIFUL
You, whether you’re male or female are beautiful. Not just on the outside, but the inside too.
The world needs you, your family needs you, your friends need you, I need you.
You the beautiful and the whole world should know. So don’t take your life.
Take one day at a time, watch yourself grow, wait anxiously to see if that tv series you want back does indeed come back, meet the love of you life, hold your baby in your arms, show the world your beauty & Live.